Thank you for visiting my website. I wish it was under happier circumstances, but you are here for a reason, and I hope this site can be a resource for you or anyone else struggling with the pain that comes with infidelity.
My name is Brenda, and I have been married for 16 years now. 3 years ago my marriage was in real jeopardy. I found out my husband had an affair with a co-worker, and it was the worst time in my life without a doubt. I felt helpless, sad, angry, afraid, and unsure of what the future held for me, and it impacted every area of my life in a profound way.
Having 3 kids made this even harder. I wondered if this was my fault, and had many sleepless nights wondering if it was something I did that drove him to cheat. My insecurities were at an all time high, and I could not help but thinking that maybe I was not attractive any more, maybe I have not been there for him enough. The constant flow of negative thoughts and feelings were drowning me, and it just felt awful.
At first, I said to myself there is no way this marriage could survive and overcome infidelity. I never thought a time would come where the marriage could actually be stronger than it was before. Those feelings were non-existent in the beginning, but faith, and time helped me to forgive and begin to heal.
A big part of allowing this to happen was his assurance that the affair did not matter to him, and that he still wanted to be together and make things work. He promised that this bad decision was an isolated incident and it would not happen again. So we decided to see if we could make things work.
We tried counseling, but it was real expensive, and it just felt like we were a number to the Doctor. It felt like all his advice was generic, and it did not really talk to us personally, so we gave up on that after a few months.
Like most other people, I was online reading about infidelity, and learning about what has helped other people get past this. I was in a forum one night when I came across something that caught my eye, so I decided to look into it further.
What I found was something I can look back on and truly say it saved my marriage. We were discouraged after stopping with the counseling, but this came into our life at the right time, and really provided us with something we could apply in our own home and keep confidential. That was big for us because there is a certain level of humiliation I felt when addressing this with others.
Fast forward to today, things are good and there is no more cheating. I have learned to forgive my husband, and together we have worked through something that nearly tore our family apart.
I created this website because I believe in paying it forward. I know the pain. I know the feelings associated with cheating in marriage, and whether you are another gal reading this, or a guy it does not matter. Those feelings hurt, and if left unaddressed can leave a life ling scar.
This page was created to share my story. You can read the product review and make your own decisions, and you can DEFINITELY contact me any time if you have any questions, or just need advice from someone that has been there, and lived to tell about it.
Jut know you are not alone in this. Many other people have survived this, and there is NO reason that you cannot either, as long as that is what you and your partner decide that you want to do.
God bless, and best of luck to you during this difficult time.